By: Tolu Olorunda
YourBlackWorld.com
Lisa Powell is the mother of Caitlin Powell. Caitlin, as you many know, is a YourBlackWorld.com family member, whose exceptional talent is inspiring thousands of kids and parents across the country. At just 10-years of age, Caitlin Powell is a role-model, motivational speaker, writer, telecaster and singer. Alongside taking advanced-courses in school, she is also the host of her nationally-syndicated webcast, “Caitlin’s Corner TV,” which helps motivate students toward academic success. Caitlin has a rare gift, and her mom is the first to acknowledge that; but it takes the diligence, skill, dedication and patience of a parent, to help nurture raw talent into a resource of enlightenment and inspiration. Lisa Powell, a social worker, took the initiative of employing her occupational skills in the home, and help craft Caitlin into the jewel she is today. As a mother of three, Powell has also had to face the challenges that child-rearing can incur.
Lisa Powell says she first noticed an “excitement” in Caitlin at a very young age, which always took everything she did “to the next level.” Being her first child, she always “set goals” for Caitlin, because she wanted to see her “be the best that she could be.” As an experienced social worker, Powell knows the dangers of “pushing kids too hard,” or not “pushing them hard enough.” Finding the right balance, between those two tangents, was the key to success in raising Caitlin. At a young age, Powell remembers how Caitlin was very interested in a lot of things, but had to be more specific in her interests. “She [Caitlin] would ask a lot of questions,” and this being the “key to a critical mind,” led Powell to “dedicate” her “life and time to seeing my daughter attain the best [that she could be].” Powell sees it as very important for parents to “tune in” to the characters and interests of children, instead of trying to impose certain qualities upon them.
When it came to setting goals for Caitlin, Powell was very concerned with the school-choice for her daughter. Deciding to take the public school route was not easy, but Powell found a way to work within the public school system. By sacrificing financially, though hard at the time, Powell was able to spend more time with Caitlin and mentor/tutor her, as she navigated the, often turbulent, terrain of the Public School system. “When she was younger, I worked full time, but when my second daughter was born, I had to step back – I now work from home – to make sure that I was at the school, making close contact with the personnel and things like that,” she says. “My first goal was to make sure that if we [Lisa and her husband] could get her into the advanced-placement program, we got her that route.” This would take “advocacy, and [Caitlin’s] high test scores” to earn that spot in advanced-placement.
As Lisa Powell sees it, a healthy self-esteem also goes a long way in achieving educational achievement for children. “I talk to my girls about the things that they like,” she says. “I don’t push them into anything that would put them down, or make them feel less than what they are.” Powell says that children are capable of learning from birth, and it is the responsibility of parents to begin the process of “bonding with them and letting them know they’re special,” from the date of conception. “For instance, my middle daughter was able to skip kindergarten, because she was so far ahead of the game – partly because of some of the things that I’m doing at home,” she says. “A lot of times, parents think that schools are the sole-responsible entity for educating our children, and it definitely starts at home, first.” As Powell sees it, every child is distinct, and only a parent knows the emotional soft-spots of a child. Teachers are not paid to parent, and are therefore limited in their abilities to reach children.
Powell believes that another element that plays a key-role in the mental development of young students is, communication. “Generations ago, when children were raised by the community, there was a neighbor involved with the children, – somebody was involved with the school – while holding the child accountable,” she says. “For me, I found that being at the school, and being a voice and an advocate for my children” has played a large role in their successes, “because they tend to fall through the cracks [if that voice is missing].”
Lisa Powell also believes that planning ahead helps one remain grounded and ready for the challenges that come with raising a child. Powell, who took a temporary retirement, to spend more time with her kids, understands, firsthand, how financially-challenging such a decision might be. Nevertheless, the future of the next generation must be protected at all costs, and “critical-thinking” can help parents strategize on the most feasibly successful plan to accomplish that objective.
1 comment:
I must agree with Lisa Powell: we must strike a healthy balance somewhere between "pushing too hard" and "not pushing hard enough" when it comes to raising our children. I have two sons; I have received two different results, so far.
I hold a degree in business administration and sociology; am a published author; am a co-writer, producer of a 30-minute movie that I also cast and directed; was quite a few "firsts" in businesses in northeast Texas that include middle management of Mobil Oil Corporation before it re-united with Exxon; have owned businesses in everything from entertainment promotion and production to off-the-rack sales of women's apparel to custom made clothing creations and sales to an interpersonal development firm (when it wasn't 'cool' to be someone pointing fingers at top management's inability to relate to their lower level employees, nor to 'stir the waters' surrounding black/white relationships here in this area of the country). That's only a wee portion of my enterprises and entrepreneurial portfolio to date. However, amidst all these career activities, I managed to rear two sons, both of whom I am proud to call my own.
Being real with them, letting them understand the whys and hows of life have helped me. And, I must add, a whole lot of self-monitoring, self-respect, and constant involvement with their lives didn't hurt. There were a number of relatives and acquaintances who thought my methods ineffective. Thank God, their concern was unfounded.
Though both my sons have likenesses, they have their differences, as well. I had to make sure each got what they each needed, when they needed it most, and in the exact amounts and manner in which it would be most beneficial. Being a parent is not easy. In fact, it's one of the hardest jobs I've ever undertaken. But, that's just it. I undertook it. And, I never like to give up or or fall short of doing my best work for any job for which I personally accepted. Conversely, being a parent has it's own special reward. Therefore, I was compelled to always do my best to ensure the outcome was the best it could have possibly been.
My job as parent is not yet ended. My youngest had completed two years of college before he was a high school senior. Since graduating high school, he's completed only one and spent the past two years 'finding out what I really want to do.' His older brother, however, went directly to college after graduating high school; stayed in school until he decided to transfer to an art school to further pursue his talent; and is now a freelance/contract graphic artist with clients like Verizon in his adequately-populated professional porfolio. The oldest had to contend with my late hours at the office and sporadic travel in order to advance my career; by the time my youngest came along, I worked from home, so was available to him and his school at a whim (or a phone call, as his principals and teachers found out to their convenience and delight). Who's to say which got the best deal? We'll have to see if either case was best or if it even matters...once my youngest makes his final decisions and moves. No matter, I've done my part; the rest is in his (and God's) hands.
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